I’m So Busy & Important!
We live in an age of technology and convenience. We’ve simplified just about everything, making life more efficient and productive. We can now do in one day what used to take days, months or even years before.
One would think that we would now have more time for personal interaction. Wasn’t that the point?
Somehow many people still consider themselves too busy to complete pesky things like words, sentences and thoughts in their emails and texts. Apparently, the less you write, the more important and busy you are. If you keep your email under ten words, You Win!
It’s also a great way to say; “I consider my time so much more important than yours that I can’t even bother myself to write a coherent sentence. So I plan to waste more of your time by making you have to decipher it.”
How much more energy and time does it take to write “Thanks”, as opposed to “Thnx”? At the end of your day, do you go home and say, “Man! I can’t believe how much more I got done because I cut those two letters out of my day”? Are you really too busy to spell out a whole word like “please”, rather than “pls”?
Writing this way is not a reflection of your importance or how busy you are, but rather your lack of respect and habit of laziness. If you can’t write a complete sentence, don’t expect my complete attention.
If you’re that lazy or self absorbed, I’m not interested in your work. You have no art for me. Art is about human connection.
As an employer, I don’t see this as cute or even efficient. I see it as disrespectful, impolite and arrogant. As a friend, I find it annoying. Really? You couldn’t even muster up a full sentence?
Another favorite is when someone replies to a well thought out email with “noted”. It’s condescending and lets me know that the time I spent on the email was a complete waste.
Why has it become socially acceptable, and even a status symbol, to showcase to others how little you care about their time and effort? Rather than play a game, why not just respond with “I don’t really care about any of this”. Or more likely, “dn’t cr bout tis”.
If you want to operate a business and foster solid relationships, I’d suggest you take the time to write coherent sentences, complete words and comprehensive thoughts. If you can’t do that, I’m not interested in wasting my time trying to correspond with you.
Sorry, just had to do that. In all seriousness, love this – it’s so true. I have a friend that sends these texts I have to decipher because of the “shorthand” she uses – it’s like code to read a sentence! Thanks for the reminder that if we are going to respond to someone and invest in them, we really need to stop and do it and give it our full attention at that moment.
I never thought of communicating with others as “art”. Very interesting observation. Perhaps this should be sent to a few CEO friends that brag about how busy they are and use “thx”.
I love how you called it, “disrespectful, impolite and arrogant”. However, maybe you are being a little too hard on people. It is a twitter world and communication styles change. It may not be somene’s intention to be impolite or disrespectful and such judgement may affect your actions or communication style towards them. Maybe not, but if I think someone is being disrespectful to me I have a tendency to push back (fortunately I’ve gotten better).
This is a keen observation and one that I will be aware of to improve my communication with others. Thanks Jared!
PS, lol (had to do it, man)
Thanks for the feedback Sutton. I know this particular post will rub a few people the wrong way, but their are only a few people that read it anyway, so no worries.
I hear you on the “twitter world” scenario. Yes, we do live in an age when Twitter talk has become the norm. However, that doesn’t mean it’s a good thing. It’s a trend, and unfortunately one that represents a trajectory we’re heading in. Social media was meant to bring us together, not drive us further from human connection. This shorthand “I’m too busy to respond to you” stuff isn’t who I am. I don’t care how busy I am. I always MAKE time for people. Always.
Yes, I agree. Society in the developed world is moving towards less personal communication. However, that doesn’t mean I have to like it. I’ll always push for more true and real human interaction. And I’ll always value it over all else (efficiency, business, money, whatever). Thx!
Point well taken. I want to be a person that will “push for more true and real human interaction”. It is a good value to have and for me to develop.