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The Sacred Flow of Life


In July of 2014, after almost ten years of living in East Africa between Rwanda, Uganda and Kenya, we decided it was time to reevaluate our geographic location. Africa has been a prevalent aspect of my life since I was just a child, and after a decade of living and working there, it has become very much a part of who I am. For our family, it’s a fundamental element of our identity.

We’ve always been deliberate about where we live and about our lifestyle in general. I am able to do my work (brand development, writing, consulting, activism) from anywhere in the world. All I need is an Internet connection. Once again we felt the urge to recalibrate and craft the life we want according to our ever evolving ethos and priorities.

The most important aspect of our lives is our family, and specifically our deliberate investment in the perspective of our children. When searching for a new place to live, this is always our guiding foundation.

The last 20 or so years have been intense, largely due to the initiatives in human rights we’ve chosen to dedicate ourselves to. We’ve not lived an “easy” life. We’ve struggled a lot. But those struggles have also helped us become wiser, and a bit more enlightened. Now we are growing a family, and our priorities are evolving. We take the responsibility and privilege of parenting very seriously.

I blogged about it our view of parenting just recently. THESE DIVINE, LIMITELSS SOULS ARE NOT OUR OWN

Late last year, we decided that 2015 would be our year of ease. I’ve realized that if my life is a constant fight, I have less energy and ability to affect the world in a positive way. So, we’re adjusting accordingly.

We decided it was time to take some deliberate actions to get us into the flow of the universe. It’s time to stop fighting and start flowing. I also had an idea that kept resurfacing in my mind incessantly: sacred. I have always been drawn to sacred things. I wanted to have more sacred experiences and also create them for others.

In August, I informed my business partners that I would be leaving Nairobi. Over the next couple months, we sold or gave away almost everything we had accumulated in our ten years in that region. It was time to reinvent our family. In September, my wife and daughter traveled to my home town of Nashville so we could spend some time with family. I followed in November. I hadn’t been to the U.S. in about two years.

We had been discussing moving to Florianopolis, Brazil, and that was the hook that drew us out of Kenya. It gave us something to aim for. But something just didn’t’ feel right. So we listened more. We meditated and prayed. Then my sister mentioned Costa Rica. Neither of us had ever thought about it before. So we began exploring the politics, culture, art and climate of Costa Rica.

Over the previous year, we had also been discussing the addition of another child to our family. Saoirse was 2 ½ years old and Francois was 20, ready to make his way in his homeland of Rwanda. The timing was right. While I was back in Nairobi for a couple weeks for work, I got a call from Ilea. “We’re pregnant!”

On January 21st, we experienced yet another surprise. We’re having twins. As a guy, this is obviously a concept that had never even crossed my mind. It was surreal. We were in disbelief. But there we were with an ultrasound photo in our hands that showed us two little bambinos. One boy. One girl.

After the initial shock, we transitioned into extreme gratitude for this double blessing. I felt like the Double Rainbow guy.

At that point, the natural and easy thing for us to do would have been to stay in Nashville and play it safe. But we knew we would just be putting off the lifestyle we really wanted for our family. Despite knowing that the twin pregnancy added another layer of difficulty to our adventure, we stayed committed to following our dreams.

On March 3rd, I wrote a blog post titled, AND SO WE LEAP, about our decision to move to Costa Rica, and why we continue to take the big leaps we take. Additionally, we decided not to mention Ilea’s pregnancy on any social media until after the birth. We wanted to keep this move and pregnancy sacred.

The more we researched, the more we realized Costa Rica might be just the type of peaceful, mindful, equatorial, tropical beach environment we were looking for.

We knew very quickly that we were getting into the flow of life, just as we had intended. It seemed everywhere we turned, someone was talking about Costa Rica. We were flooded with stories, connections and opportunities from every direction.

On March 24th, we packed up eight suitcases with all our belongings and got on a plane to San Jose, Costa Rica. Ilea was 4 ½ months pregnant, and we were dropping into a country we had never even visited before. One of my lifelong friends lives in San Jose, and he provided a soft landing and some good connections for us.

Since then, we have met some of the most incredible people, seen so many exotic places and had a ton of truly extraordinary experiences. I gave a talk about UBUNTU REVOLUTION at the DO Lectures, held at the amazing Puerta a la Vida. Already there have been a multitude of “sacred” opportunities rising up for us. More than we could have imagined.

On the morning of August 4th, Ilea awoke at 4:00 AM and knew it was the day these little souls would join us. Everything progressed very quickly. Our drive to the hospital would have made the cast of Fast & Furious quite proud. It was intense. But we made it, unscathed, and without having to deliver babies in traffic.

Over the previous months, we managed to find the exact type of hospital, doctor, midwife and pediatrician we wanted. They are all proponents of natural childbirth, and keeping this experience sacred, rather than clinical. This was yet another blessing that was nothing short of miraculous.

Ilea was like some sort of celestial being. She was glowing, confident and in the flow. At 12:40 PM, just three hours after arriving at the hospital, she gave birth to our firstborn son. Ten minutes later our second daughter was born. She took no painkillers, no Pitocin, no epidural and didn’t even have an IV during the birth. It was a100% natural birth. For a twin birth, this is almost unheard of.


We were allowed to keep the babies on her chest, with no baths, immediately after they were birthed. They weren’t bathed until the next day. The bonding was profound. It was just the two of us at the hospital, thanks to my nurturing and generous mother that flew in from Nashville to take care of Saoirse (and us) during the birth.


So here we are. A year after we decided to deliberately manifest our ideal lifestyle. We currently live in beautiful Santa Ana, Costa Rica on the side of a mountain in a wonderful, peaceful community. In about five months, we will complete this leg of our journey by moving to Nosara, a perfect, deliberate little beach community full of yogis, surfers, spiritual gurus and organic food.

Our lives have never been easy. We’ve been through a lot. We’ve seen a lot. We’ve suffered and toiled. For much of my life, people sort of joked about me being cursed with always having to learn the hard way. Money hasn’t come easy to us either, mostly because it was just never a priority.

But we are growing and evolving. We’re taking every difficult situation and asking, “How can we view this differently?” A year ago, we were struggling and losing faith. Today, we are inspired and living out our dreams.

It hasn’t all been simple and easy. But we can certainly see proof that our belief in our ideals and willingness to deliberately manifest them is paying off. We are getting into the flow. We have more energy and peace in our lives than ever before. And I’m sure we’ll need it as we embark on this next year of raising newborn twins, a three year old and launching multiple new projects.

We are so grateful. For these beautiful, healthy babies. For our son that is growing into a man. For our daughter that is finding her place in this world. For our health and wellness. For the family that loves and supports us. For the friends and other influences that inspire us. For the awe inspiring, peaceful environment of Costa Rica.

And most of all, we are grateful to be in this sacred flow of life. It’s been a long journey, but today we are learning to see the miracles in every moment, and to believe in our ideals. We no longer need to know all the details or the ending. We trust that the universe is working our favor, and so we leap.

Life is meant to be sacred, flowing and extraordinary. All we have to do is believe and find peace in each moment as we step closer to our dreams.

Thank you Zion Sol and Teya Jupiter for choosing us as your parents. We are eternally grateful and honored to join you on your journey.


  1. Dan on August 9, 2015 at 12:33 AM

    Jared. Great update. I love how you are leading your family with such clear intention. And it is indeed a sacred journey.

  2. Theresa on August 9, 2015 at 2:29 AM

    Jared and Ilea, I was just grinning ear to ear reading this update. I am so very happy for you all. I look forward to hearing more updates as your story unfolds. Kiss those babies for me!

    With love,

  3. Regina on August 9, 2015 at 2:37 AM

    Alright cousin. Yah for family expansion! Everyone looks happy and healthy. Congratulations on your life decisions. We wish you all the best in the many years to come.

  4. Ashley on August 9, 2015 at 1:26 PM

    Everything about these babies has been just purely magical. I am so excited for you and the incredible journey you are living in, as well as how our paths will intertwine even more over the coming years. Cannot wait to meet these beautiful souls! We are also living the life that looks for the sacred in everything – the everyday and the extraordinary. Pura Vida brother!

  5. Clark Gaither, MD on August 9, 2015 at 2:01 PM

    What a beautiful story and family. I connected right away with your ideas about flow and your focus on the sacred. I have always considered life sacred. No life should be wasted yet too many are. I have always been intrigued by the flow of time and the effects it has on us as we journey through the different seasons of our lives. So, two new luminous and sacred beings have joined us. It is too wondrous for words.

  6. Nikhil on August 9, 2015 at 2:20 PM

    Learning is always hard, even if it means validating some old truths that we had been told but we were reluctant or unprepared to believe.

    But it’s only by that hard learning that faith is truly rejuvenated. Accepting truths told by others on faith just does not work.

    Touched by all your pictures on Facebook. I didn’t know till today that you had been “A year ago, we were struggling and losing faith.” Or that you had a blog.

    I put in quite a bit of political commentary on Facebook and groups. I have been told I can combine blog and Facebook groups, but I haven’t managed to learn it.

    I am currently in India, trying to arrange care for my ailing mother and also undergoing treatment and physiotherapy for extreme arthritis. (I have been told each of my four joints currently have arthritis commonly seen in 80+ year-olds and to have them all together at this age is a rarity. I don’t want and can’t afford four replacement surgeries, at least not yet.)

    I am a grandfather now; Priya has a girl who’ll turn 2 next month. They are in Washington. My son-in-law is a classical organist and plays/teaches at a church as well as a school.

    Tell me something about the symbol you have chosen when you have the time. Perhaps you explain that in an older blog item.

    In the meantime, best wishes to you all. I will come and hold the young ones while they are still babies. Over the years, I have learnt that babies like me.


  7. Nick Pavlidis on August 10, 2015 at 5:15 PM

    What an amazing next chapter to your incredible story! Congratulations on the two new beautiful new additions to your wonderful family!

  8. Kevin Miller on August 10, 2015 at 6:18 PM

    Brother…beautiful post, beautiful pics, beautiful life & reality. What a great, great story.

  9. Jared Angaza on August 10, 2015 at 10:10 PM

    Thanks dad! It’s been an incredible journey, and I still feel that we’re just getting started. Lots more adventures to come.

  10. Jared Angaza on August 10, 2015 at 10:10 PM

    Thanks so much Theresa! Much love to your family.

  11. Anne Musisi on August 11, 2015 at 6:57 PM

    It’s been ages and I was thinking of you guys a couple of days ago when I just touched on this today. Such wonderful news so happy for you both and one day will come & check you out those sides.
    Many hugs from Kampala x

  12. Qaumaniq Suuqiina on August 13, 2015 at 5:01 AM

    Jared- so love hearing about your amazing life. You have always impressed me as a guy with a great heart even when you were a teen in my Homeschool class!!!! Blessings to your precious family Daniel Ferrell’s Mom

  13. Jared Angaza on August 17, 2015 at 3:12 PM

    Qaumaniq, thank you so much! It means a lot to hear this from you. You and your boys have been a big part of my life since I was just a kid. I hope you are doing well! Many blessings to you.

  14. Jared Angaza on August 17, 2015 at 3:12 PM

    Thanks so much Anne! Our family is growing quickly! Much love to you and the girls.

  15. Jared Angaza on August 17, 2015 at 3:13 PM

    Thanks Nick! We are blessed, and so grateful for these little bambinos.

  16. Jared Angaza on August 17, 2015 at 3:15 PM

    Thanks so much for your kind words Clark. I have always felt drawn to the sacred things in life. It taps into the awe that I believe we were all born with. I want to foster that, rather than squelch it. I wish you many sacred moments ahead!

  17. Jared Angaza on August 17, 2015 at 3:17 PM

    Thanks sister! I am so excited for you to meet them and for them all of our kids to be together. These little ones didn’t just choose us, they chose the ones we love as well. Namaste.

  18. Jared Angaza on August 17, 2015 at 3:17 PM

    Thanks so much cousin! Many blessings and lots of love to you!

  19. Jared Angaza on August 17, 2015 at 3:18 PM

    Thanks so much Theresa! Much love and blessings to you and your family!

  20. Kim and Dieter on August 17, 2015 at 5:26 PM

    Hi Jared, Ilea, and Saoirse, we’ve been wondering how things worked out for you three since we left Nosara. So happy to know all is well and the babies have arrived safe and sound. We are looking forward to seeing you guys again and meeting the new little ones in Nosara again next April.

  21. Jared Angaza on August 18, 2015 at 3:12 AM

    Thanks so much Kim! I have been thinking about you guys a lot! Now that the babies are here and everyone is healthy, the next big move is to get us to Nosara! We’ll be traveling out of the country in September for five weeks, then back to Costa Rica to start finding a home in Nosara. We can hardly wait to get back to the beach. We had such an amazing time there, and it was a HUGE perk to connect with you guys! We will have a grand reunion soon! Much love to you both.

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  23. Nabila Hassan on October 23, 2015 at 9:23 AM

    Jared when i think of all the ways to express what a breath taking moment having gone through your story i just cant find the very best to make it sound so true but i honestly admire all that you and Ilea have been through.Despite our short time in Mombasa i must stay you will always be part of our lives no matter the distance. My love to your entire family and kiss the little ones for me.

  24. Jared Angaza on October 23, 2015 at 2:39 PM

    Thanks so much Nabila! We still talk about you all the time as well. It was a divine meeting between all of us, and we will always carry you with us. Namaste, and much love from our family!

  25. Angie Gore on November 2, 2015 at 2:20 PM

    What a beautiful and inspiring update… Brett recently asked me about “flow” and I intend to sit with him tonight as he reads your post. I’m so honored to have met you, Ilea and Saoirse in Nairobi and I honor your brave adventure through life. Please let me know when you get settled… I’m ready to come babysit. 🙂

  26. Jared Angaza on November 4, 2015 at 3:53 AM

    Thanks so much Angie! We are also honored to have met you! And you and Brett are certainly welcome to come and join us on the beach any time!

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  29. joel on June 28, 2016 at 2:23 PM

    Tremendously moving post Jared… I am in tears (of joy) for you and your family.
    I’m so excited that I will finally get to have you on a podcast!

  30. Jared Angaza on June 28, 2016 at 2:53 PM

    Thanks so much Joel! And I’m honored to be on your podcast!

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